Having a Coach Doesn’t Change a Thing!

You may have heard me talk about how important coaches are so much that you’re ready to quit reading right now.

So what I’m about to say may surprise you:

Having a coach doesn’t work. 

Getting a coach doesn’t move the needle.  Meeting with a coach doesn’t change a thing.  The impact comes when we act, when we actually try something the coach has given us to do.

Here’s a fascinating wrinkle.

Following a coach’s counsel doesn’t have to work.  It doesn’t have to be the greatest idea you’ve ever heard.

Following a coach’s counsel has a way of getting us moving, getting us going at a fast enough speed that we can start to make turns easily.  When we are dead in the water, it’s a thousand times harder to change direction.

Long ago, I made the decision that if I were going to ask for (or pay for) time from a coach, I would never ask for a next meeting until I had completed the assignments given to me in the previous one.

Make that your rule too.

If you’ve got a coach or two in your life (especially free ones!), make it your practice never to call for a second meeting until you’ve actually done something with the counsel you received in the first one.

Imitate and apply the counsel of wise people, and you can’t help but become wiser.  Spend time with folks who have created financial margin in their lives, and there’s a good chance that you will too.  Start to think more like your generous friends and coaches, and it will be nearly impossible not to become more generous.

But it all begins with actually trying what you haven’t tried, doing what you haven’t done, thinking in ways you’ve never thought before.

I’d Love to Have a Coach, but I Just Can’t Afford It.

There are a lot of excuses for not building coaches into our lives.

One of my favorites is, “Sure, I’d love to have a coach, but I just can’t afford it.”

So…start with what you can afford.

If that’s nothing, ask 10 people you respect to give you a little coaching on a project you are working on (or on your soul).   I’ll guarantee that 2 of them will say yes (if they don’t, I’ll give you a little coaching myself!).

I have coaches I pay (my counselor, for example).  But when I first started building my team of coaches, every coach was a volunteer.

  • I’d find someone doing great youth ministry, and I’d take them to coffee every few months.
  • I’d find someone building great businesses, and buy them lunch.
  • I’d meet someone with a resonant faith and joyful countenance, and we’d meet together.

Some of the relationships became on-going, formal relationships.  Some were one-off meetings that helped me move the needle in some area of my life.

So take a quick inventory for yourself:

How many coaches would you like to have, in what areas of your life?  How many do you actually have?

What are you going to do about it today?